Best of me

Recently someone asked me “How has motherhood changed  you?” I responded “It makes me want to be a better person, so I could be the best mom I can be”. We then went into a discussion about how society expects mothers to be perfect these days.  New moms are encouraged to breastfeed exclusively, put their babies on a schedule, not co-sleep with their child, make baby food from scratch, and don’t forget trying to look like the celebrities who  look perfect 2 weeks after giving birth! Now, I understand there is a reason these things are advised. However, being a new mom is challenging and the same thing doesn’t work for every baby, so once you become a mom all these expectations can cause you to feel insufficient. I personally had a difficult time breastfeeding. I still cringe today when someone asks me if I am still doing it, because it’s a sore topic for me. Even when I visit the Nestle Canada website (makers of our formula) an add pops up stating “Breastmilk is best for your baby” I want to yell “I know! Stop telling me!” I feel bad every time I’m reminded that I don’t breastfeed her anymore. But I’ve been a mom for a whole 7 months now, and I’m doing a much better job of reminding myself these things don’t really make me a better mom or a bad mom. I doubt Isabelle and I will get into an argument someday because she is furious I didn’t breastfeed her longer. lol

Therefore, I am trying a new thing. While I try to continue to make good decisions for Isabelle, I need to make even better decisions for me. That means taking care of myself, trying to eat a little better, talking to my husband or a friend when I’m feeling a little low, reading a book, and trying become a better Christian. Now I know I’ll still have days when I have barely  brushed my teeth, and all I want is 5 minutes to myself, but I will have to remind myself ever so often to set small goals out so that I am also working on a better me. For example, today I read this verse “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” Colossians 4:6 (NIV)” So today, I will try to work on being gracious, especially when talking about other people. I’ll try not to gossip, I’ll say something encouraging to someone, and I’ll apologize if I forgot to use my grace. See, by me working on becoming a better person this way, I’m setting an important example for my baby girl. So if I don’t find the time to puree her veggies today, I won’t be so hard on myself, because it’s the way I act, and the things I say, and the thoughts that live in my mind that will really impact who she becomes – not the not-so-favorite bulge on my tummy.

  • Recent highlights:  As I mentioned in my last post, we surprised my parents in Michigan last week. It has been great watching my parents with her – they’re so happy to be grandparents.  Since her dad isn’t here, we skype him regularly. We were ‘skyping’ yesterday and her face just lit up when she saw his face.  It is one of the best feelings of being a mom – when she is happy to see me just because I’m her mom.
  • Recent funny moment: She is trying to crawl, but doesn’t use her arms. She uses one knee, one foot, and pushes her head on the floor to get around. I find it very amusing:)
  • Recent crazy parent moment: She got a cold the night before our flight, and would flip out when I tried to clean her nose. But you know us parents, we can’t have our child in public with a dirty nose ! lol She would have a complete meltdown every time I tried to clean it, which was a little embarrassing on the plane:)
  • Recent milestones: She enjoys rolling over now! That combined with her inchworm crawling move – I feel like I’m going to be baby proofing very soon. She also eats more solids now: Carrots, apples, banana, sweet potato, squash, and her favorite watermelon! She did not, I repeat NOT, like green peas.
  • Bellelesson of the week: Moms: take sometime out for yourself this week, even if it just 30 minutes. You’ll be in a better mood to handle the craziness of being a mom.

2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Rachel
    May 22, 2012 @ 16:18:41

    It’s great to be reminded that the things that make us important to the people we love and the things that leave lasting, and even life-changing impressions, are the things that we live by and live for–not the size of our waist, the length of our hair or how glowing our skin is. Its tough to distinguish that difference with the media and marketing shoving other ideas down our throats–ideas that objectify women and give us these somewhat unattainable standards. We are everyday women, with everyday lives and everyday budgets. Thanks for reminding us of what is really important. I pray you pass on that thought pattern to little Belle, so as she grows, she too will understand the real worth of a woman.


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